§ extended family history
§ parents relationship
§ your relationship to either of your parents
§ relationships with siblings
§ moments of intense trauma (physical, emotional, financial)
§ moving to a new city, home, school
§ harm, abuse, betrayal done to you, once or many times
§ leaving home and moving out on your own
§ harm you’ve done to others
§ patterns of habitual sin
§ conversion to follow Jesus Christ
§ physical ailment, injury, defect
§ patterns of social pain, suffering, conflict, trial
§ times of great blessing (emotional, physical, financial, spiritual)
Consider sharing answers to a couple of these questions as part of your story.
2. Who wounded, abused, or hurt you?
3. How did you deal with it?
4. What lies did you come to believe?
5. What suffering do you experience that is beyond your control (like abuse)?
6. What battles do you face that you brought into your own life (like sinful habits)?
7. What do want most deeply?
8. What or whom do you most love, or most hate?
9. When do you get the most sad and depressed? When do you get hopeless?
10. What do you get the most excited about? What brings you the greatest pleasure?
11. What do you especially want to avoid?
12. What do you think you need? What are your “felt needs”?
13. What do you see as your rights? What do you feel entitled to?
14. Who must you please? Whose opinion of you counts? From whom do you desire approval
and fear rejection? Whose value system do you measure yourself against? In whose eyes are
you living? Whose love and approval do you need?
15. Where do you find refuge, safety, comfort, escape, pleasure, security?
16. What or who do you trust?
17. How do you spend your time? What are your priorities?
18. What do you want to get out of life? What payoff do you seek out of the things you do? What do you get out
of doing that?
19. How do you define who you are?